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Dating etiquette who pays

Women see a guy who pays for the check as a gentleman and someone who is invested.

The old-school dating etiquette that the man pays is disintegrating. I work, I ask men on dates and sometimes (OK, often) even have sex with them purely for my own satisfaction, without wanting a baby or a ring or even a three-course meal in return.

Generations of women before me popped contraceptive pills, downed pints, threw themselves in front of racehorses - and left me to pick up the tab. There are times when it's wholly appropriate for the fella to cough up: if he initiated the evening, chose the venue and picked the wine, for example.

However, a good rule in dating is not to do anything with the expectation of something in return.

Do you anticipate, even just a tiny bit, that if you pay for dinner, I am obliged to be radiantly complimentary and adulatory company? Some men seem to take great pride in saying those three little words: “I'll get this.” But similarly, men may ask whether an expectation is being placed on them.

In the era of social media and dating apps, the old battle over who pays on a first date still lingers on. A new study finds 10 percent of heterosexual daters are looking for something very traditional where the man pays for everything.

Another 10 percent are looking for 50/50 from the very first date. But the study also found more than 75 percent of men say they feel guilty when accepting women's money on a date.

But that’s tricky because gals are torn over tab sharing: Some are reluctant to pay while others are adamant about their ability to pay.