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Dating and nice guys

He won't try and put you down if you get a better job or opportunity than him, in order to make himself feel better.

He will be fully present with you, enjoying whatever you guys decide to do, from sitting on the couch and watching a movie, to going out to a bar and having a few drinks. If you're dating or have a massive crush on someone who casually makes comments that put down your accomplishments, or other aspects of yourself, that's a red flag you're dating an a**hole.

The nice guy will never say something that would knowingly hurt you, like putting you down for your weight, a health issue, accomplishments, your beliefs, and other parts of you.

So when it comes to sex, women are more inclined toward the fiery, passionate qualities they attribute to the “bad boy” or the alpha male, but when it comes to dating and serious relationships, women claim to want a “nice guy.”Girls like to have someone around to whom they can express their feelings, but women are sexual creatures, so when it's time to jump in the sack, we want a guy who is going to lay it down.

This means even though we ladies claim to want serious relationships with good guys, we end up going for the guy who's no good for us.

A woman's dating preference is the ultimate paradox. In two studies highlighted in “Sex Roles, A Journal of Research,” the “nice guy paradox” is explored.

The thing is, while we're constantly on the lookout for that super sweet, caring guy who will make a great companion, we're actually attracted to the guy who ignites passion within us. There's just something so satisfying about taking the jerk home from the bar who's spent most of the night intellectually challenging you in a heated verbal debate. This nice guy stereotype contends that women often claim they want a nice guy, a man who is sweet, kind and sensitive, and yet, when it comes down to it, she rejects this man for one with “other salient characteristics” like a hot body or an ultra strong personality.

I had a drink with a friend the other night who spent the entire time pouting as he regaled me with the latest details of his most recent failure in the dating world. No one ever wants to date me because I’m too nice,” he whined.