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In fact, because we are more settled into who we are as individuals, it can sometimes be even more difficult the older we become to be willing to sacrifice that individuality. Not being someone who likes to jump from one relationship to another, I give myself time to heal and reflect before trying again.

I am also not someone to take or place blame of a situation where it does not soundly belong.

While I will not take blame for the how the ending evolved, I can honestly admit to myself that I am a part of the why. I hate the idea that I may be treated as the ‘sick girl’ or be handled with kid gloves as though I may break. While it is something I will have to deal with for the rest of my life and I have always been honest about that, I did not really discuss or reveal how that affected me.

I never really opened up and talked about the fear I live with every day.

I have never discussed, with anyone really, that I have a good idea about how I will die. I see it daily with people, sisters, friends I have come to know and love.

As I said in the story, cancer cuts us to our sexual quick. Here’s a link to Part 1, which covers the sexual aftermath of cancer treatment and how surgery, chemo, radiation and hormone treatments — all those things they do to keep us alive — can cause all kinds of sexual side effects, from fatigue and body image issues to erectile dysfunction and vaginismus.

And even though it felt like I was walking around in my underpants when the stories came out (I talked a little bit about my own experience in this realm), I’m glad I covered it because it’s a big issue for cancer patients and it doesn’t get a ton of attention. Sex after cancer has become the elephant in the bedroom.

It’s so important to have safe, supportive places like this where patients can bond and bare all. I was standing in line to check in at the plastic surgeon’s last week when a woman tapped me on the shoulder. “Did you write about your breast reconstruction for the University of Washington alumni magazine?

Did your cancer and treatment lead to sexual side effects? Please join me and the folks at Fred Hutch tomorrow (August 4) at 10 a.m. ” I nodded and introduced myself and the two of us talked “shop” for a few minutes.

Along with these challenges are a seemingly endless trail of thoughts and questions: When will I feel ready to start dating again? But no matter where a person is in their cancer journey, whether they have a new diagnosis, are in active treatment, or are posttreatment survivors, to have fears and concerns about dating and sexual intimacy is normal.

Empowering these patients to build upon their strengths so as not to let these fears adversely affect their current relationships or prevent them from pursuing future relationships can play a huge role in the healing process.

As I said, it’s not easy to write about this stuff or talk about this stuff.